Deaf Man Killed His Estranged Wife
This article appeared on the news yesterday. As a long time domestic violence advocate, I sighed and thought to myself ‘another one lost to domestic violence’. I do not know who this man is, nor do I know his wife and her hearing status. It’s something I’ve encountered too often. One death due to domestic violence is one death too much. Over the years, I’ve talked to devastated family members and friends of Deaf women killed by their husbands or boyfriends. As a blogger, I’m supposed to be detached, but I am not. I feel their pain. As time goes on, I find it more difficult to cover domestic violence cases. I would love to open the cyber-newspaper and never see another Deaf person lost to domestic violence.
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P.S. I got several e mails asking me for the article. Here is the new link. The article in the previous link had been taken down. A lot of comments under the this current article! http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/6819663.html
This article appeared on the news yesterday. As a long time domestic violence advocate, I sighed and thought to myself ‘another one lost to domestic violence’. I do not know who this man is, nor do I know his wife and her hearing status. It’s something I’ve encountered too often. One death due to domestic violence is one death too much. Over the years, I’ve talked to devastated family members and friends of Deaf women killed by their husbands or boyfriends. As a blogger, I’m supposed to be detached, but I am not. I feel their pain. As time goes on, I find it more difficult to cover domestic violence cases. I would love to open the cyber-newspaper and never see another Deaf person lost to domestic violence.
Can you help make this dream possible? You can contribute with a simple click of a button and help DeafHope win one million dollars, so a safe and accessible house can be built for Deaf people escaping from domestic violence. http://apps.facebook.com/chasecommunitygiving/charities/412815
.
P.S. I got several e mails asking me for the article. Here is the new link. The article in the previous link had been taken down. A lot of comments under the this current article! http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/6819663.html
January 17th, 2010 at 3:09 pm
I agree one death is too much!!!
January 17th, 2010 at 5:13 pm
MishkaZena, I am grateful for your willingness to continue your history of advocating for Deaf women and children’s rights. Thank you for supporting DeafHope!
January 17th, 2010 at 7:01 pm
DeafHope is just one charity, and perhaps the most fortunate to having been on the short list for winning the million. There are so many other cities that need a DeafHope establishment, too, and in those cities women are still faced with a choice of going out alone on the streets or staying with their abuser.
I voted, and according to the website, one can vote four times…not sure if this means all at once or once for each level of advancement. But hopefully, if DeafHope wins, it will become the flagship for many other similar establishments elsewhere.
January 17th, 2010 at 9:12 pm
It is sad about domestic violence. It is still going on. It is hard enough when no one cares.
There was one case here in this town. Deaf man stabbed his girlfriend to death. He is now rotting away in prison.
How many more?
January 18th, 2010 at 4:44 am
Do not get this the wrong picture, I do support against domestic violence on any particular person that are affected. What I am reading here from your post did not clearly state the message. The police stated argument between the HUSBAND and Wife occurred when the WIFE’s boyfriend showed up at their home. Why would the WIFE allowed that? Is the boyfriend looking for trouble to damage the relationship among the HUSBAND and WIFE? The HUSBAND must have lost his temper and found out his WIFE lied and playing around. The HUSBAND must have snapped out of his mind and what he did was out of control. He deserved what he get to go to jail. I do not know if this is known as a DV because there was no past police reports of their continued arguement. Usually police will state of long domestic issues. The police did not state that. I do not know their history. It was just that it reported the wife had a BOYFRIEND and the boyfriend showed up at their home. Who started this problem? The WIFE? or the BOYFRIEND? I would consider the HUSBAND lost his temper without thinking. SAD but he paid the price to go to jail until the court time. Will be interested to see where the court see about this. On another side note, the 17 years old son was there. He was not hurt. There will be a story coming out form the 17 years old son if he knows the story among the WIFE and BOYFRIEND as well perhaps his father. Let the court decide the decision if its known as DV or a case of mentality. I do not know both person as well. They live in the town Magnolia where it is close to Conroe.
January 18th, 2010 at 7:39 am
just to let you know that the link you posted is no longer active. It was removed.
Sad, who was it? I don’t know but none the less the story is sad.
January 18th, 2010 at 10:25 am
Little Toy…
Regardless whether the wife had a boyfriend, it may be obvious that husband and wife were already separated. I suspect the husband and wife may have a long history of domestic violence. She may have left her husband. She may have a right to have a boyfriend.
I can’t believe that you’re being so prude.
January 18th, 2010 at 11:43 am
Little Toy– What you just stated is called VICTIM BLAMING– There is NO EXCUSE for violence. He could have walked away. InsanMisha is right that it is apparent there is a long history leading up to the murder. Most dangerous time for any women in domestic violence circumstance is when they try to leave the abusive relationship or have already left the relationship.
January 18th, 2010 at 1:58 pm
Steve, thanks for letting me know.
Little Toy, this guy had a history of domestic violence. In fact, he was jailed at least once for that offense.
January 19th, 2010 at 12:59 pm
“As a blogger, I’m supposed to be detached, but I am not.”
You are confusing blogging and journalism. Nobody ever said bloggers have to be detached. Bloggers usually express their opinions. Journalists are the ones that are supposed to be neutral and unbiased.
January 19th, 2010 at 2:26 pm
Pardon me? I was referring to feelings, not opinions.
January 27th, 2010 at 7:04 am
Not only husbands but a wives, partners, common in laws and etc. Gay and Lesbian partners too. I encounter with a woman after we date 4 only times. I immediately dumped her. I was shaken and scared. Did you heard the news about Nancy Kerrigan who is an Olympic figure skater. Her brother is charged in father’s death. Domestic Violence occurs everywhere.
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June 12th, 2010 at 8:19 pm
I grew up believing that everyone is accountable for their own actions. As a deaf woman, I have been in an abusive relationship and it was a scary experience. More often than not, deaf women rarely report domestic abuse. In this case, I do believe the husband lost control of his actions but that still doesnt make him unaccountable for it. Its kinda sad. What most women need 2 know the moment a man puts his hands on you, he is controllin you emotionally and physically. Its never about LOVE. Because his fists will find their way 2 injury you again and again. After the first fist lands, you need 2 RUN THE HELL FAR AWAY! You will be saving your life in that order.
November 4th, 2010 at 8:12 am
It’s not only Deaf women, but it’s also Deaf men being beaten up or near killed too by crazy psycho women. I am one of them!