But, not everyone can adopt and survive those early adoptive years. I hear of failed adoptions all the time. It is heartwrentching…some times folks give kids back for a variety of reasons…but, I am thankful that the kids go back…I’d much rather see a kiddo go back to the placing agency to find a more appropriate match…than have a child stuck in a family that is not passionate about their committment to see that child to adulthood.

Adoptive homes do not go through the 6mos to 1 year of extensive interviews and trainings with the intention of doing anything besides welcoming a needy child into their homes… on one goes this with the intention of failing..

Birth children do not come with instruction books…neither do adopted kiddos…but both equally deserve passionate parents who are fully committed to doing their personal best each and every day…if you don’t feel this kind of passion, you most likely are not the best placement for this child and you are doing a disservice to the child pretending otherwise.

All across the US are children waiting to find an adoptive home…I hope and pray follks who are interested in adoption will step up to the plate for real and call your local state adoptions agency. I guarantee you there are literally of thousands of foster youth in the USA just waiting for a family of their own…

I earnestly hope that the World Federation of the Deaf and the NAD will be alerted and would look into this matter and notify the United Nations of which WFD is a member.

Deaf people, kids or adults, are NOT faceless. They are human. They can breathe. They can feel. They CAN think. They can smile. They can pout.
(The Deaf and Blind Helen Keller says that she could feel whether a cat was happy or upset.)

We cannot judge people without knowing all the sides.

Still it is tough.

They were hoped up and get ci for their Deaf Daughter but turn it out “not good qualify”.. Decide send Deaf Daughter back to Agency.

I’m surprised Couples are cold heartless!

This set of parents discovered they were pregnant, so gave up the deaf adoptee…we can guess why: they wanted to give their own child attention and were worried about their committment to the deaf child.(They had been learning ASL so might have had second thoughts.)

It takes a honest parent to admit they can’t give a child its right to love and commitment. Imagine how an adoptee would feel–like an outsider in a family with a newborn natural child. Being Deaf is a double hardship in this kind of family because it brings in a language/communication element.

Better for the adoptee to be in a home where all the children are either adopted or Deaf.

That’s terrible.

But I have mixed feelings based on my Aunt’s adoption experience.

She loved this boy so much and really tried hard to bond with this kid but it was nearly impossible because of the background he came from – a broken family. He had a lot of emotional issues that made it really difficult for my aunt.

She had to return him because it was getting out of control and she couldn’t raise him. She felt really bad about it and questioned her own parenting skills. She just couldn’t bond with him even though she loved him. Does that make sense?

If the parents had bonded with this deaf child, regardless of him getting CI or not, it wouldn’t have been an issue. I truly think it’s the bonding issue here, not because of the “perfect” child.

Perhaps she knew she wasn’t fit to be this child’s parent and it was probably in the best interest of this child to go back and hopefully be placed with parents who are better suited for this child in a loving environment. I most certainly hope the new parents would be proficient in ASL so they can teach this child.

A lot of children, not just the deaf, go through this every day.